Happy Halloween!

Allow your abuser to melt from your life!

An “All Saints’ Day” Birthday does not ANOINT a “Wicked Abuser!”

As a child, “All Saints’ Day,” the day after Halloween, was a day off from school.  Each year, I was to spend “All Saints’ Day” in the worship of the “Saint” in my life.   As an adult, I learned to dread Halloween because it was to be spent preparing Birthday parties for the “Saint” in my life.  Each year, she would end the parties and the day by making sure that I knew how much she didn’t enjoy holidays and parties.  And, how imposed upon she felt because of having to fake enjoying what I did for her.

Today, I am having an appreciated party!

Yester Years, I gave her parties only to be asked, “Why do you like punishing me?”  What she didn’t understand was that I am not punishing her.  On her last birthday, she had run out of Flying Monkeys to worship her.   I think a few of her monkeys finally believed that she attempted to murder me throughout my life.  Narcissists do not take well to being alone and exposed.

This was written years prior to 2021. On this Halloween (2021), I am letting my happiest witch’s laugh be heard because of celebrating the first Halloween that I will be allowed to enjoy, my Wicked Witch Mother is finally dead.

Did she want me, or did she only desire a servant? The last time she attempted to murder me, 2/20/18, I declared her dead.

Today, I remember the pain of her abuse.  I may never forget it.  She gave me a gift that only an evil-hearted witch could give their daughter.  I have facial neuralgia, trigeminal neuralgia. Each day the pain reminds me of how much my mother never loved me.  And I am punishing her?

Today, I want to tell all Survivors that you deserve to enjoy the smiles that show through costumes.  And, go ahead, give out a few treats, friendly tricks, and smiles.  Tomorrow, you will have the memory of how good it feels to enjoy; however, you choose to spend the day. 

Survivors, you deserve to enjoy every holiday because you are living through “Hell” for the freedom to be happy. 

Happy Halloween!  Yes, it is ok to wish your “Wicked Abuser Dead!”

If you would like to talk about what you are going through, please feel free to email me at any time.


Dr. Speer, Ph.D., CLC, CDRC, Legal Advocate, & Survivor

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Sandra Speer, Ph.D. is a world-renowned Author, Keynote Speaker, and Certified Life Coach and Disaster Recovery Coach who offers Seminars, Group and Personal Coaching designed to show all how to move beyond their past to live happy and successful lives.  Dr. Speer knows from personal experience as a survivor of a lifetime of abuse, that recovery brings happiness and chances for unlimited success.  As a Legal Advocate, Dr. Speer strives to ensure that abusers are punished.  Nothing makes her happier than watching prosecuting attorneys go to jail, children return to their right parent, and individuals find justice with her assistance.  If you need to charge, fight the system, or in need of making a complaint against a doctor, mental health practitioner, corporation, or institution; Dr. Speer has the experience needed to win your case.  Her publications include The Remains of Hurricane Katrina with various articles written as a contributing journalist for educational books and publications, FEMA, and the American Red Cross to help all understand Trauma.

I am looking forward to meeting you!
Dr. Sandra Speer, Ph.D., CLC, CDRC, Legal Advocate