Domestic violence occurs when an individual is emotionally, physically, or sexually abused or threatened by an intimate partner. What differs domestic abuse from child abuse is that when a child is involved, the offender does not need to be an intimate partner or an individual with whom they are related by blood.
Did you know that Globally, 1-4 women and 1-10 men experience physical abuse during their lifetime with 15% of those reported cases committed by intimate partners? It is estimated that for each domestic violence case that is reported, ten domestic abuse incidences are not reported. Almost 50% of all female homicides, which occur in the United States involve an intimate partner.
Time to talk about us!
Statistics are one thing: let us begin now to talk realistically about people directly involved. Initially, once leaving an abusive partner, your feelings are all over the place. You are not sure if you love the person, hate the individual, or if it is possible to live without them. Often, many survivors come away from abusive relationships with nothing. Most lose their homes, financial security, often their children, and are isolated. Many survivors find that family and friends that once seemed supportive become unsupportive and often enemies.
The complication of domestic violence is that when most men and women experience divorces the experience leaves them in need of rebuilding their lives. I will never forget the day that I stood in a rainstorm looking up at the sky asking how I was going to provide clothes, food, and shelter for my children. My husband and I owned our business together. But, it was in his name. And, I had not held a job in many years. I had $5.00 in my pocket. As you can see, I got through it. Sometimes with very little, but we survived and my children grew up to become happy, successful people.
As your "Life Coach"
As I began to meet other women going through divorces, I learned that it would have made my situation a lot easier if I had someone who could have helped me know that I was staying on a positive path. A life coach would have helped me to stay strong through all the rough times. That person would have helped me to know how to be strong for my children, how to handle gaslighting and triggers while still fighting for custody and child support. Furthermore, my life coach could have helped me learn skills to get a job, or social skills when trying to meet new friends. After leaving an abusive partner, you need someone to cheer you on more than possibly any other time in your life.
I work with you within my concept of life coaching that “Unsticks” you from your abuser's attitude of you to helping you increase your self-esteem. Then we work together to show you that you are capable of accomplishing your goal of being happy and successful.
The next time you feel stuck, contact me or schedule a FREE introductory “Time to Unstick Yourself” life coaching session. Your initial session is FREE because I understand that it is very difficult to trust anyone after intimate partner tears your soul. They make you question everything you do, and you worry if you are capable of making any good decisions. It is time to "Unstick" yourself from their control, and learn to live happily.
As your Life Coach, my only goal is to assist you in finding your path to happiness and success. Please feel free to contact me at any time, or schedule your FREE Introductory "Time to Unstick Yourself" life coaching session today.
Sandra Speer, Ph.D., CLC, CDRC, Legal Advocate, & Survivor